Dangers of dating an older man
Try to talk to your daughter, express your concerns.
Let her know that you only have her best interests at heart.
I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.
After several months of bliss and sex, he started treating her badly and her moods were very erratic, varied by however they were doing at the moment.
A lucky few end up in marriage, which is often proceeded by a child and continues with multiple children, poverty, physical and substance abuse. Let him know that if he really cares about her, he will abide by your wishes since you only have her best interest in mind and he should too if he cares about her.
After all, why should she worry about passing a chemistry test when her boyfriend is worried about paying his rent or losing his job.
She may still rebel and insist on seeing him, so don’t be afraid to lay down and enforce rules while she is still under 18, living in your house and going to school.
Most of these relationships usually fizzle out if the teenager is allowed to come into her own in a healthy way, but often not before she is scarred in someway.
If they were good, she was happy, going to class, doing good.
If he was ignoring her, she was depressed, missing class, consumed with anxiety.
Recently a client of mine who is 17, started dating a 23 year old man, and while the age difference isn’t drastic, one has to think, what would a 23 year old man who could date anyone 18 and up, want with a 17 year old high school student? Of course they had a lot of that, often unprotected, but luckily she never got pregnant although she hasn’t gotten tested for any sexually transmitted diseases.