Dating essential men
It's easy to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date -- where the two of you sit around and get lost in deeper and deeper conversation.
These 'chatting dates' can slip out of control and become subtle passion-killers though, especially if you're not careful to keep the big picture in focus.
The point of conversation should always be focused on drawing HER interests out instead of dwelling on your own (but don't come across like a ruthless Nazi interrogator -- go easy on the unbroken string of questions).
Share a little -- but keep YOUR interests lost in the background.
Her response to a few casual queries about her life or current dreams holds clues to your *Life Line*.
Cling to it tightly and work on expanding its scope. Don't worry, when you finally hook her she'll begin questioning you intently... But that probably won't happen until after you've had sex. ) 4) Forget About Trying to Act "Like Yourself" The standard dating advice of "being yourself" or "acting like yourself" (whatever the hell that means) is pure "Oprah-istic" B. Learn to strike a balance between coming on like a phony-baloney (which we talked about earlier), and seeming too safe and friendly.
When you think about it, it should be easy to get juiced up... If you have a real problem controlling automatic body reactions to nervousness (bad sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) my best advice is to get a book on yoga and practice it WITH AN OPEN MIND.
Focus on having experiences with her that the two of you can reminisce about some day in the future -- instead of spending time caught up in a lot of drawn-out amateur psychotherapy sessions in a bar somewhere.
Conversation is very important in any new relationship, and is the pathway to her eventual sexual surrender, but you must provide her with a REASON to want to know so much about you *FIRST* before opening your soul. 3) Don't Be a Bore A boring person is anti-charismatic -- which is to say that, instead of making people feel GOOD about themselves by acting interested in them, the boring person makes us want to run away screaming from the agony of having to listen to another second of his self-absorbed droning!
Modulate your voice in a throaty style (lowered volume) and keep the tone of your words sounding a little bit "conspiratorial" (without going overboard and making a fool of yourself). this is an essential Jedi mind trick that you MUST somehow learn to play on yourself.
A squeaky voice spells fear and sounds adolescent, so strive to keep it in check. 6) Obsession Is the Hallmark of the Weak Male Dominant males will show an interest in any attractive woman they encounter because they are highly sexually driven. Proclaiming ridiculously inappropriate nonsense like "... I love you" or "You're the girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first or second date is the frightening talk of the potential stalker. So chill the subservient groveling and act like you've been down the dating & mating road a few times already. Simply ASSUME that any woman you're working will *always* like you -- and do whatever the hell it takes to sell this idea to your unconscious mind! Your attitude is a naked expression of your unconscious beliefs about yourself.
Yet I hear that most Serbian men never do any kind of housework at home.