Dating many guys at the same time
As a transgender woman, my relationship with online dating is complicated to say the least.
With my accounts on Ok Cupid, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel and Christian Mingle, I am subjected to the same kind of messages from Mr.
I get plenty of matches on Tinder, but within 24 hours around half of them un-match or block me after reading my profile.
Thanks to Tinder, profile pictures say more than a thousand words—and actual words seem to be irrelevant on our profiles.So, whenever I see 6’2″ or taller on a guy’s profile, it’s almost an automatic right swipe.As a trans woman on dating apps, I’ve always made sure that guys are aware that I am transgender. There have also been many documented cases of trans women being hurt and sometimes even killed when they disclose their status to transphobic men that found them attractive, so disclosing my status is also a way of protecting myself from potentially dangerous situations.These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone.