Good questions to ask before dating someone
Letting physical intimacy run wild and free typically means the emotional, spiritual, and personality attraction is lagging behind. Sex while dating can create many awful shades of gray, when what your relationship needs is some honest black and white.
One of the greatest causes for conflict in marriage are contradicting core values.
If these questions and the ones I will pose in Part II are answered honestly and help determine your decision, your chances of entering a happy marriage or avoiding an unhappy one are dramatically increased. You therefore have three choices: Make peace with the problem, see if it can be solved before deciding to marry, or don’t marry the person. Likewise if you have opposing political and social views to which you are passionately committed. The power of sex is so great that it often obscures problems of relating to one another. Do you love talking when you don’t see, let alone touch, each other — such as by phone or computer?
In my late 20s, I directed a summer institute for men and women ages 19-25.
I’d describe core values as beliefs that are fundamental to how you are wired, guiding your actions, thoughts, plans, and purpose on this earth.
We all have values that direct us and help us make decisions – problem is most of us have never articulated what those values are.
You would do so regarding the purchase of a car, wouldn’t you?
Yet no car will affect your life nearly as much as your spouse.
Decades of radio counseling, personal experience, and public and private discussions about marriage prompt me to write this list of questions for anyone contemplating marriage. Is the person your best friend or at least becoming so? This is probably the single most overlooked question among couples, especially young ones. Many people cannot not answer this in the affirmative. Over time, friendship is the greatest bond between a couple. One of the most devastating ideas of the last generation was that needing or depending upon another person is a sign of weakness. The inability to need is a sign of weakness — you are afraid to relinquish power or afraid to be hurt. Nearly always, a woman who dates a man who meets the criteria listed here can grow to find him sexually attractive.